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We shall walk together on this path of life, for all things are part of the universe, and are connected with each other to form one whole community.

 

~Maria Montessori

 

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Win/Win Guidelines

 

  1. Take time for cooling off if needed. Find alternative ways to express anger.
     

  2. Each person states their feelings and the problem as they see it using "I messages." No blaming, no name-calling, no interrupting.
     

  3. Each person states the problem as the other person sees it.
     

  4. Each person says how they themselves are responsible for the problem.
     

  5. Brainstorm solutions together and choose a solution that satisfies both-- a Win/Win solution.
     

  6. Affirm your partner.

A conflict is a fight, a disagreement, or a problem. It usually involves more than one person. Often people become angry during a conflict. Conflict resolution is solving the problem so no one loses, and so that physical force is not used. When we resolve a conflict successfully, both sides feel like their needs have been met.

 

The following are further explanation of words used in the Win/Win Guidelines.

 


The Process of Affirming

  • First, just notice what is special about the other person.

  • Make a sincere statement to the other person about whatever is positive or special about him/her.

  • Be sure to look at the other person directly as you speak.

  • Relax, and know that the other person is just like you inside.


I Messages

  • I feel angry.

  • I'm sad because you took my....

  • I'm embarrassed because you called me a name. 


Reflective Listening

Reflective listening is listening with complete attention to the person speaking and repeating back in your own words what they just said. When people are listened to in this way, they feel affirmed, and they listen better to you when it's your turn to speak.


Rules for Brainstorming

  • Say anything that comes to mind.

  • Don't judge your ideas or the ideas of others.

  • Don't limit your ideas by trying to have them make sense. Invite your mind to be absolutely creative.

  • Allow your thoughts to come quickly. Let them flow.

  • Know that people use only a small part of their brains. Brainstorming enables you to unlock the parts you don't ordinarily use. Surprise yourself with new ideas.

  • See how many creative ideas and solutions you can come up with, and don't restrict your thoughts in any way.

  • Be outrageous and have fun!